Sahabat, tentu kita sudah tidak asing lagi dengan salah satu kisah yang tertulis dalam sebuah hadits tentang Ibunda Aisyah yang melempar nampan berisi makanan karena cemburu.
Kemudian Rosul dengan sabar memunguti yang berserakan tersebut sambil berkata dengan tenang kepada para sahabat, “Sesungguhnya, Ibumu sedang cemburu,”
Kita juga sudah tidak asing dengan kisah Siti Sarah yang begitu cemburu kepada Siti Hajar yang mana puncak kecemburuan beliau adalah ketika Siti Hajar memiliki anak, Nabi Ismail.
Padahal, Siti Hajar adalah istri yang dipilihkan sendiri oleh Siti Sarah kepada Nabi Ibrahim, bukan atas kemauan Nabi Ibrahim sendiri.
Sahabat, yang selevel Ibunda Siti Aisyah dan Siti Sarah saja (yang tingkat keimanannya tidak diragukan lagi) ternyata masih bisa cemburu.
Apalagi yang imannya naik turun dan ilmunya masih jaaauuuhh seperti kita ini.
Tentu bukan bermaksud untuk mencari pembenaran, tapi setidaknya tidak perlu gengsi mengakui jika kita sedang cemburu karena toh itu sangat normal. Yang penting cara menyikapinya.
Ketika kita mengakui dengan berani ke diri sendiri bahwa kita sedang cemburu, langkah selanjutnya adalah mencari solusi.
Tapi setidaknya kita bisa lega karena mau mengakui. Sebaliknya, ketika kita sok kuat dan sok tegar dengan mengelak sekuat tenaga ketika cemburu datang, yang ada hati dan jiwa serta pikiran akan makin sakit karena tertekan.
Akui saja, tidak perlu malu. Memangnya kenapa kalau cemburu? Toh ke suami sendiri. Yang penting masih dalam taraf wajar, kan.
Dan untuk para suami, jagalah sikapmu karena selogis-logisnya dan sekuat apapun itu, wanita tetaplah wanita yang jauhh di dalam hatinya pasti akan cemburu ketika suaminya dianggap melakukan hal tidak biasa.
Foto berdua dengan teman wanita, terlalu akrab dengan lawan jenis, dan bersikap genit entah itu di dunia maya atau nyata adalah beberapa penyebab seorang istri dilanda cemburu.
Bahkan sekalipun sang suami bersikap pasif, tapi kemudian diganggu oleh wanita penggoda, jauhh di lubuk hati sang istri pastilah sangat cemburu.
Hanya saja, tipe istri dalam menyikapi rasa cemburu itu beda-beda.
Ada yang membalas dengan cara negatif. Misal suaminya suka foto selfie dengan temannya yang cantik, maka istri pun tidak mau kalah, dia balas juga berfoto mesra dengan teman laki-lakinya yang ganteng.
Ada juga yang membalas dengan cara positif, misal menyibukkan diri dengan kegiatan yang produktif agar tidak larut dalam prasangka dan imajinasi enggak jelas, rajin memperbaiki diri, rajin mengaji, atau serupa.
Ada yang melampiaskannya dengan marah-marah ke suami padahal sang suami tidak melakukan kesalahan besar.
Atau, melampiaskannya ke anak bahkan tetangga, misal enggak suka banget lihat tetangga depan rumah bahagia atau menekan anaknya agar menjadi wanita mandiri dan berdikari serta bisa mengalahkan laki-laki.
Dan pelampiasan-pelampiasan yang lain.
Dari sekian banyak hal yang dilakukan istri tersebut akarnya sama, yakni CEMBURU.
Maka para suami, mengertilah bahwa istri (sekuat apapun dia) tetaplah wanita normal. Dia juga bisa cemburu walaupun tidak diperlihatkan secara frontal alias blak-blakan.
Maka, pekalah terhadap istrimu dan jagalah sikapmu serta hargai ibu dari anak-anakmu itu. Sesungguhnya Allah sebaik-baik pembalas.
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7 Tips on Choosing the Right Type of Business Suitable for Beginners
What business? This question may often arise in your mind when you feel confused in choosing the type of business you want to build.
Though you already have some money that will be used as business capital. Want this business to feel inadequate, want that business to fear failure to start the business. Especially if you have a mediocre capital. Being entangled in confusion like this finally makes you fail to open a business.
So how do you determine the right business for beginners when they want to start a business from scratch?
Actually it is not difficult to choose what kind of business is good and right for a beginner. It's just that you don't know how and where to start.
This article might help with the confusion you are experiencing. You do not need a lot of daydreaming and thinking too far because sometimes something that is in front of the eye even escapes the view. Though it could be it could be a business that can make you a successful person in the future.
Here are 7 surefire tips to determine / choose the type of business that is suitable for those of you who are still beginners in business.
1. Choose a Business that Appropriate with Your Interests and Skills
How to find a business that is suitable for beginners is to recognize yourself first. Try to remember what your interests have been.
For example if you do not understand the problem of fashion but you force yourself to open a clothing store because you feel that selling clothes would sell well and fortunately big. A month or two may run normally. But if you can not keep up with the trends, your business might not last long because you do not understand the world of fashion.
It's different if you like making various kinds of cakes so you intend to open a cake shop. So running a home-based cake business will suit your hobby that likes to make cakes. In addition, the business will feel comfortable running because it is in harmony with your hobby.
Another thing to consider in finding a business that is suitable for you is to choose a business that is in accordance with your expertise. Indeed, the expertise you have may not necessarily be your hobby.
But at least you will not be inconvenienced in starting a business because you are already an expert in that field. So you don't need long time to develop your business.
2. Making a Business Line List
After you find a business that suits your interests and expertise. Do not be in a hurry to open the business immediately. It is better to make a list of the business fields that you have chosen first. You can record it in a book about various businesses that suit your interests and hobbies.
Think about what is good business right now so that you will find it easier to develop. As much as possible write as much as possible in the list of business fields so you have many alternatives as options. That way, you can analyze and find out what types of businesses have not been established by others.
If there are indeed many competitors for the type of business that you are interested in, then you must have new innovations to be able to compete or you are looking for alternatives to other types of businesses that are still lacking competitors but have a high level of interest.
In addition, in choosing the type of business. Think about where you will open your business. Do you want to choose the type of home-based business or open a roadside kiosk. Adjust also the capital budget that you have so that you are not stuck in managing your business finances.
3. Study the Business Field You Choose
At this point, you should have confirmed the type of business you want to open. Even if you feel you have an interest and expertise in this line of business, this does not mean that you will be successful in building the business.
Therefore, immediately learn the field of business that you have chosen. Especially for businesses in services such as beauty salons or home sewing services. Understand really what are the advantages and disadvantages of your business.
For example you want to open a catfish pecel business, but to get a decent catfish for sale is quite difficult because you have to buy outside the city. That's all, sometimes there are sometimes not.
This of course can hamper your business because of a lack of key raw materials. You should be able to sell 100 portions of catfish pecel per day, in fact, you can only get half of it because there is no raw material. Certainly very detrimental to the continuity of your business.
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4. Adjust the Capital You Have
In setting up a business, you should really pay attention to matters of capital. Don't force yourself to open a business that you want, if you don't have enough capital. Because you might be running a business that has only been running for several months, you have run out of capital.
For example, you want to open a photocopying business and be equipped with all stationery equipment. This business will certainly be more appropriate if it is opened near offices and educational institutions. This makes you have to rent a shop / kiosk whose rental prices are not cheap.
While your capital is only enough to buy materials for your business. In the end you are confused and hesitant to start a photocopy business of your dreams.
Therefore, when you choose any type of business, adjust to the capital you have. If your capital is small, temporarily look for businesses with small capital which certainly will not burden your finances.
After all, if you want to work hard and smart in managing it, any business you run will definitely benefit you.
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5. Note the Location of the Business Place
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In addition to dealing with capital, the type of business you want to establish must also be adjusted to your location of residence. Consider the level of competition for similar businesses, market share and business development opportunities that you will run for the next few years. If you feel you lack bright prospects, you should undo these intentions.
For example, you want to open a fried business in the area where you live. But in reality in the area tel be fun.
there are already many who sell famous fried foods and have regular customers.
If you feel you can compete because you offer something new, for example, the fried foods that you present are unique. Then please open your business. But if you are pessimistic, you should look for another location for your place of business that has not been much competitive.
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6. Also Pay Attention to Consumer Interests and Needs
The important thing that you must consider in determining the type of business is market share. This point is actually closely related to location selection. You should also pay attention to the demands and needs of consumers when they want to set up a business
For example if you live in a village that is rarely passing vehicles and you are trying to open a café or restaurant that provides a variety of modern foods such as burgers, steaks, hot dogs etc. Surely the business will be devoid of interest and may not sell.
However, if you live in the city, opening a cafe will certainly be more likely to succeed. Another example of a business that is very concerned about the needs of consumers is a kilo laundry business where many people really need it.
Therefore, you should be able to apply a SWOT analysis to find out the strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats to the business that you are going to build.
If you don't know about SWOT analysis, please read about SWOT analysis, understanding, benefits and examples
7. Immediate Action
After you read the points above, you should be able to determine or choose the type of business you want to build. Instead of you just daydreaming, you should start from now.
Either the business you are building is only a small business or even a large one will be useless if you do not start it right now. One of the capital that you hold instead runs out first to meet your needs.
It's not easy to start a business when you have no experience at all. In the end you are confused about what business you want. Try to apply tips on choosing the type of business above so that your desire to immediately have a business can be achieved.
